Machiavellianism in Everyday Life: at Work and in Relationships
Strategic, coolly calculated thinking — how it shows up at work and in relationships.
Machiavellianism is a strategic, manipulative way of dealing with people: forward-looking, controlled, and willing to influence others to reach one's goals. Unlike impulsivity, it is deliberate and long-term.
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Direction of typical associations (not exact values). Based on Paulhus & Williams (2002) and SD3 research.
At work
In the workplace, Machiavellianism shows up as calculated networking, holding back one's opinion until the situation is clear, and skillfully securing advantages. Information is shared in measured doses.
Part of that is simply smart strategy. It becomes a concern when colleagues are persistently treated as a means to an end and fairness gives way to advantage.
In relationships
In relationships, Machiavellianism can appear as controlling closeness, tactically withholding information, or exploiting weaknesses. Emotions are steered rather than shown openly.
That doesn't mean every strategic person exploits the relationship. The thing to watch is whether trust is genuine or just a tool.
Signs and how to handle it
Typical markers are a cynical view of others' motives, little openness about one's own intentions, and a strong focus on outcomes. Clear boundaries, transparent agreements, and a focus on actions over words help.
Important
This article explains personality traits for information and self-reflection. It is not a diagnosis and does not replace psychological or medical advice.
Learn moreFrequently asked
Is Machiavellianism the same as psychopathy?
No. Both share coldness and manipulation, but Machiavellianism is deliberate and long-term, while psychopathy is more impulsive and thrill-oriented.
Is strategic thinking bad?
No, it's value-neutral and often useful. It only becomes a concern when morality is consistently subordinated to personal advantage.
How do I deal with a Machiavellian person?
Set clear boundaries, keep agreements transparent and in writing, and pay more attention to actions than words.
Where do you land?
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Sources
- Paulhus & Williams (2002), Journal of Research in Personality, 36, 556–563
- Jones & Paulhus (2014), Short Dark Triad (SD3), Assessment, 21(1), 28–41
- Lee & Ashton (2005), Dark Triad in the HEXACO model, Personality and Individual Differences, 38, 1571–1582
- Dark Triad — Wikipedia (overview & further references)